How to be mentally strong

Gaining mental strength from the world around you

Many people question their ability to be strong enough to go through all the trials and tribulations of life. What they may not realise, simply because they don’t have the experience to know, is that every human being has this special capacity for mental strength which, for the most part, rests dormant. When need arises, suddenly humans are faced with what seems an impossible task. Coping against all odds is part and parcel of what makes humans strong, though even in everyday life, you can learn from what goes on outside of your bubble of security, to be a stronger person. The picture of morning mist can be interpreted two ways. The sun coming out on a new day, or clouds threatening. The cup half full or the cup half empty. Within the difference of your perception lies the secret of gaining mental strength.


Step 1

Look at the situations which try you.

Everyone has their weaknesses. For some it may stem from criticism by others. For others, it may stem from being too heavily depended upon. Write down the things which weigh as heavy upon your mind. It is only by discovering which situations are trying you that you can start to look at solutions which are within the grasp of anyone who opens the door to solutions.

Step 2

Learn from your weaknesses.

If you find yourself suffering mentally because of self imposed situations, it’s time to let go and admit that you are taking on too much. It takes a bigger man to admit to failure than it does to carry on suffering, though those who play the martyr find this a hard lesson to learn. People don’t actually like martyrs very much. What they do is put others into the shadow by over compensating for their own weaknesses. Admit something is too much, and allow someone else to take up the slack. This helps to increase mental strength because it teaches a human that asking for help is actually sharing the weight. Often those weaker than yourselves need to hear that their contribution is needed, and in allowing them to do something good, the mental benefit you feel is worthy of the effort. Even if they don’t do it better than you, let them try. No one wants to feel second rate. The capacity to give others a chance strengthens your mental reserve and makes you a better person.

Step 3

Learn from other people.

Observe others. When you really observe, you always notice people who seem to have it better than you. It’s actually not a question of anyone having anything better than you, but how they use their own mental capacity to gain happiness. The happy person may be humble. Humility is one of life’s biggest lessons. The person who helps quietly without need of reward gains inner strength of lasting quality, because it doesn’t depend upon approval of others. Watch people and learn from them how to be humble.

Step 4

Learn to accept yourself.

Learning to accept who you are is hard. Many human beings never do. They stay in a state of anxiousness because they feel they don’t measure up, or that the amount of good things in their cup is less than that placed in someone else’s. These are the people who think they are ugly, think they should have more, think they are entitled to something other people have. All of this is negative. Negative thought takes away human mental strength, and erodes it. Once you learn to love yourself for who you are and what you represent, instead of measuring yourself by how full someone else’s cup is, your mental strength grows. Instead of looking at the cup as half empty, try to imagine it half full.

Step 5

Learn to cope with disaster.

Within every human being’s life, disaster will happen. To one, this may come in the form of losing a finger nail. To another, it comes in the form of not having sufficient food to feed their children. Disaster is measurable, though each man’s disaster is measured differently depending on their circumstances. The beauty queen about to walk down the catwalk will be mortified by having ladders in her stockings. The lady who stands at the grave of her child will be mortified by her grief. When disaster happens, inner strength kicks in if you let it. Allow yourself to cry. Allow yourself to see the reality of the situation and the true magnitude of what it is that has happened. It is alright to react to situations. It is only be experiencing them that the human spirit is taught how to take a path through them into the future. All trials within our lives teach us coping mechanisms which strengthen our resolve and in consequence help us to cope.

Step 6

Going beyond mental anguish.

To learn from mental anguish, human beings actually need to experience it. How can a person who has never felt frail understand frailty? How can a person who has never suffered disappointment understand failure? All of the negatives things which go through our minds do so as a lesson to help us gain a better understanding. These are all normal things which in themselves strengthen mental ability. It’s not wrong to feel anguish. It’s wrong to live it, because the lesson is not being learned. It’s not wrong to feel negative, though it’s wrong to live in a negative manner, because you are not learning anything from the negativity. Use each negative mental thought to conjure up reasons for the lesson, and ways to stop yourself from feeling those negative thoughts again. Observing others and your own reactions to different aspects of life offers a wealth of lessons. They are there for everyone if they open their hearts to learning. Then the strength is assured, and you can indeed gain mental strength from your own efforts.

You will Need
• To observe and learn.
• To learn to listen.
• To learn instincts.
• To learn to think before reacting.
• To lean to create balance and harmony.

Tips & Warnings
• Mental strength doesn’t mean that you are able to take control. It means you are able to control your own emotions in given situations.
• Mental strength doesn’t need approval of others nor does it seek it.
• Mental strength makes you a better person.


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