How to bring the spark back to your marriage!

Ignite the spark in your marriage relationship.

Re-start the fire in your relationship tonight.

Every marriage relationship experiences ups and downs. If your marriage is experiencing a down time and it seems like there is no hope of the relationship surviving, think again. The fire that once burned hot is still there. It is time to fan the flames and ignite the spark again.


Step 1

The first thing you need to do to get the spark back into your marriage is to make your spouse a priority. He or she has to come first in your heart, before work, friends, family and even before your children. Of course, you can’t just tell your spouse, «You are now my priority.» You must show it through your actions. Seek your spouse out the second both of you are at home and affectionately let it be known that your are so glad he or she is home. Do this every night.

Make certain to connect physically with your spouse every day, several times a day. This is not a reference to sex. A hug in the morning, a miniature back rub at the table, a squeeze of the hand in passing — all of these little physical touches are signs that you are thinking about and that you enjoy the touch of your spouse.

Step 2

It is important to plan time alone. Don’t forget the feelings and fun you had when you were dating. It is even better now because you can make love without guilt. Sex is a very important part of a relationship but it often gets put on the back burner or becomes somewhat stilted when there are children in the home. Save coupon money, or find some other way to set aside money for childcare if you cannot make arrangements for grandparents to watch your little ones. Once you have the time alone, focus on the enjoyment of your spouse. The feelings will be so wonderful that your spouse will want to do the same for you.

Step 3

Little notes with sweet thoughts on them will let your spouse know that you can’t wait to see him or her again. It doesn’t have to be racy as you wouldn’t want an embarrassed spouse explaining the note to a nosy boss, but even a note like «I can’t wait to see you tonight» can be enough to create anticipation.

Step 4

Always treat your spouse with the utmost respect. Never share intimate details of your life with anyone. Always say gracious things and let others know that you were the luckiest girl or guy alive because of your spouse. When he or she does something fantastic, let him or her know how much you appreciate it. Never use your spouse as the butt of a joke you are telling and always race to his or her defense when someone else does. Your home should be a fortress for your spouse, a safety zone where love is felt. If you consistently elevate your spouse, that spark is going to show up in the eyes and you’ll know you’ve found it again.

Step 5

Show your desire to reconnect by becoming a «me first» type of person. Be the first to say «I love you.» Be the first to say, «I’m sorry; please forgive me.» Be the first to say, «You were right.» Be the first to share whatever you have with your spouse. Be the first to keep your voice down in a disagreement and the first to refuse to argue. Learn how to handle disputes without anger or accusations. Use self-control unless you’re in the bedroom.

You will Need
• Patience
• Persistence
• Love

Tips & Warnings
• Don’t let someone else treat your spouse better than you do!


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