Never taking our relationships for granted
Whether married or not it’s still relationship. It takes a lot of consideration for any relationship to survive. Some of us can easily be taken for granted even without realizing it. In the early stages of a relationship we think everything we do or say-each of us will agree on most anything. The relationship is new and exciting. We’re for certain that nothing will ever go wrong. There’s the trust and so much love we think that we’re going to explode from the excitement it all. We’re just bursting.
When we’re in a relationship that we are sure is bonded for life-we get quite used to each other. Then as the time passes, there isn’t anything we don’t know about each other. That’s good for the working relationship some of the time. Later, we may know each other too well. Knowing what the other is going to say before they say it(for example). We get used to each others behavior/character. In most relationships, it’s excepted without a mention of anything wrong with it.
Being taken for granted is usually a sign of assuming.
What I mean by this is…
Men for example: Lets’ say we just assume the man is in charge of taking out the trash. Maybe cleaning the cars/garage,etc. We assume this is automatic and he should always be in charge(so to speak) of all the mens’ things to do. Well, as time passes, months or years he’s been doing these things. All of a sudden(so it seems) he’s slacking back on his share of duties. Later it’s becoming noticeable that things are not getting done as they were. Well then, we assume that he will continue, but doesn’t. Now who is to do these things. Is it what is going to be added to the womens chores? Well, then he realizes that she is doing his work on top of hers-because someone has to do it-but he doesn’t say thank you or anything at all. Then just lets’ her keep doing it. That’s taking some one for granted relationship or even a friend. There’s no respect anymore and he’ll just assume she’ll keep doing it.
Taking the other in a relationship for granted goes for women as well. Lets say that the roles are reversed. He is now doing her things on top of his. Still she assumes he will keep doing it. Well, all I can say is that this is causing friction by now in the relationship. One is going to get tired of this quickly. If not discussed between the two-that happy relationship will soon sour!
There’s no respect for each other anymore. This can lead to less intimacy, less talking and more arguing/tension keeps building. So there goes what both of you thought was to be forever. It’s not a good feeling. How do we fix this?
If one doesn’t, then we’ll just have to say that-the both of you will keep assuming to take the relationship for granted.