Juggling men: How to feel guilt

Juggling men: How to feel guilt

Equality among genders has grown leaps and bounds over the years. Sadly there are still those who feel a woman’s life should be one of monogamy, but ironically don’t hold a man to the same standards; multiple dating by men is considered acceptable, but not for women. As much of a double standard as this is, some women still feel guilty about dating more than one man at a time. It doesn’t have to be that way.

Women who date multiple men should feel no different than the men who date multiple women. Both groups consist of mature adult who should be treated in the same manner and held to the same standard; that of intelligent human beings who can choose their own paths in life. Segregating the two genders into categories, one that says it’s acceptable to multi-date and one that says it isn’t, is nothing short of prejudice.

Prejudice as defined in Roget’s 21st Century Thesaurus in Dictionary Form p. 645, is a belief without basis/ information. It further defines it as chauvinism and narrow-mindedness. This is an accurate label to put on anyone who believes it is not unacceptable for a woman to date more than one man at a time. There may have been a point in our history as a society when this prejudiced way of thinking was considered the norm; but it is not the norm any more.

It has long been proven that women are equal to men in every respect; even if there are some who still linger in the distant past and think otherwise. This includes the right to multiple dating. Woman should be given the same tolerance to multiple dating that men are given.

If a man has a high five coming to him for having procured two dates with two different women, a woman deserves one also. Dating multiple men is nothing to be ashamed about. There should be no guilt for a woman if she doesn’t want to be tied down to one man. Guilt is an emotion better left for those times when you really have done something you’re not so proud of; multiple dating is not that something. There are actually benefits to multi-dating.

You’ll meet a wider variety of gentlemen, who’ll have a diverse set of interests. Thus, you’re more likely to see and experience a much broader array of things. If you have an engagement to attend which requires an escort, there’ll be a bigger pool to choose from. Let’s face it; some men just aren’t cut out for a black tie affair. And who knows, you may miss out on Mr. Right by restricting yourself to only one gentleman.

So don’t sit home debating whether you should go out with that charming man you met at the park last week because you’re already dating the one you met at the history museum the week before. Do you think it would stop him? My guess is it wouldn’t.

There are some women who prefer to lead a life of monogamy. Raising children, pampering their husband, and tending to chores is right up there alley. I don’t mean to imply these duties are not important; they are. Nor do I mean to insinuate women who choose this route in life are short changing themselves; they’re not. But, there’s nothing to be guilty about if you’re not one of them.

Rid yourself of any guilt you may be feeling if you are dating more than one man. It may not be for everyone, but if it’s what you want to do, you have every right to do it.

What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Or in this case, it would be more appropriately said, what’s good for the gander is good for the goose.


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